There are many misconceptions about the term soul mate and that of a life partner. A soulmate is someone who comes into your life to teach you, enrich you, push you and transcend you into a higher state of being and consciousness. A life partner is a companion whom you trust and depend on during your life.
Soulmates can enter your life masked as friends, family members, and lovers. They fill a passion and desire that needs to be learned. Once the assignment and guidance is completed a soul mate usually exits the picture, oftentimes leaving an inconceivable amount of heart ache.
A life partner has similar interests in your life. This person is the cheerleader, the pillar of strength and support that encourages you to take risks. Unlike the soulmate, a life partner sticks around regardless of what obstacles and challenges are ahead. Life partners are spiritually and emotionally connected without egotistical notions.
Soulmates have a deep connection through heart and consciousness. They hit the ego and bring about turmoil. The relationships are intense and full of transitions. These beautiful experiences usually end in broken hearts. Soul mates bring with them karmic lessons that need to be completed in this incarnation.
Life partners arrive at a moment when there is self love and acceptance. You are no longer needing to fulfill an emptiness that cannot be explained. These partners join you with similar stories. They are there for the long haul.
“A soulmate’s purpose is to shake you up, tear apart your ego a little bit, show you your obstacles and addictions, break your heart open so new light can get in, make you so desperate and out of control that you have to tranform your life.” ~ Elizabeth Gilbert
When you meet your soulmate, you feel as if you have known them forever. You understand each other and have similar ways of thinking. Your childhoods have similar stories. This is where the intensity in soul mates starts. There is a “knowing” that magnetically attracts you to each other. These relationships can be chaotic and destructive since there are levels of mirroring one another: the flaws and habits.
Whereas, life partners come from different paths and backgrounds. The differences enhance the emotional connection. You want to know more and learn from each other. You feel at ease in their presence, and this turns into a friendship that is profound and everlasting. Love grows with each passing day.
“Important encounters are planned by the souls long before the bodies see each other.” ~ Paulo Coelho
There is a higher connection between thinking and feeling. You know each others’ thoughts and desires. Soulmates do not need words to convey their ideas and emotions. They have been where you are. They know how it is to feel a certain way.
Life partners are attracted to one another physically and crave to learn the other’s values. The relationship is based on logical and intellectual stimulation rather than an emotional one driven by soulmates full of highs and lows.
Soulmates arrive at a specific time when something needs to find closure. Amazing lessons come through these relationships. The love that is shared is ecstatic and sometimes full of hard obstacles. These two people are trying to find footing in a relationship that brings out the best and worst in each other.
The relationship with a life partner is easy. It begins without work. It continues to connect through the current day-to-day events. There is no past or future stories that manipulate the union. There is just right now. These relationships have healthy marriages because both sides are ready to create a oneness while still remaining in their own individuality and authenticity.
It is very possible that your soulmate can also be your life partner. And, it is also possible that the relationship with a life partner can become a profound soul connection. The biggest difference between a life partner and a soulmate is that one is a choice and the other one is not. There is no better or worst in these two types of relationships. Your soul and your connections create these special bonds. Each person that enters your life is a teacher and student.
“Your soul mate makes you feel entirely intact, like no piece is missing from the puzzle. A life partner, on the other hand, can be a great supporter and long-time companion, but is limited in his or her capacity to enrich your spirit.” ~ Dr. Carmen Harra Source