Sometimes we are so caught up in our busy lives that we don’t stop and notice love. Love can be right across the room at work, or at the coffee shop making your latte. But, this busyness that we call Life masks everything around us until one day we take notice.
Whether it’s a cup of your favorite java, or a new play list for your IPOD, this person is trying to show you that he/she pays attention to what you like. When we begin to fall for someone we take notice of the small things. If someone is sharing your moments, laughter, coffee, and what is truly interesting in your life, this person is trying to win your heart. We are attracted to those who pay attention. We need to feel accepted and acknowledged.
Whether it is on social media, through a text, email, post-it notes, or face-to-face, this person says the nicest things to you. He/she cares about you and everything you do. To this person you are amazing. He/she feels that it must be expressed. Words are powerful tools for romancing and enticement. Words carry frequencies that raise us when used with love. If you find that someone is constantly expressing their admiration through praise, you must accept that the person is trying to win your heart. If you are honest with yourself, you might just be letting happen.
Whether it’s running hands through their hair, or wearing a constant smile, sometimes the body will give out hints that love is in the air. Dr. Albert Scheflen, author of Body Language and the Social Order
, discovered that whenever a person enters the company of someone of the opposite sex, certain physiological changes happen. But, this doesn’t just happen in attractions of the opposite sex. When we are interested in someone our posture is better, we smile more, we make sure our clothes aren’t wrinkled and we carry ourselves with pride. We want to win over the person by physical attraction. We want to make sure they know we find them attractive.
In a study by the University of Chicago
, researchers found that someone is attracted to you by the way they gaze into your eyes. Eyes tell all your secrets. You can’t hide your truth when you look into another person’s soul. Eye contact is a constant struggle in our society. We have a hard time looking into another. But, when it comes to courtship, or trying to get someone’s attention, eye contact comes naturally. You want to make sure you are being seen and heard. We flirt with our eyes. So if someone you know is really looking into yours, they are doing the best they can to get into your heart.
He/she wants to be part of these moments with you and will do anything to let you know it. If you like movies, he/she will be that person who shares your passion for them. Even when your interests aren’t of his or her liking they will find a way to make time for them. There is something magical about finding someone who likes what we like or who doesn’t judge us for our quirks. When someone is trying to win over your heart, they will find that sharing in your interests is the easiest way without the strain of sexual attraction hanging over you.
He not only hears you but he listens attentively. In today’s world full of chaos and distractions, listening has become a lost art. When someone is trying to get in your heart all those distractions are put away. The phone is turned down. The computer is off. You get undivided attention to hear. You know when someone is trying to get your attention when you are all that they want to listen to. It’s important to remember that we feel through our senses. Most relationships fail because we already know what the other will say before they speak. We stop listening. But, when someone is really into you, trying to get your undivided attention, they will do everything they can to hear every word you say. Later, they will remind you of when you said it too.
It’s rare that we ever fall for the person we are supposed to fall in love with. We have false expectations that don’t really align with our desires. When you find that one person who is a friend, or a stranger, and conveys the sweetest messages, give yourself permission to open your heart and let it show you true love. It sometimes happens with the most unexpected person.